In order to create and sustain positive behavioral change, we must surround ourselves with those individuals that truly want us to succeed.
We call these individuals Allies.
Allies possess certain relationship qualities, such as:
- They can accept us for who we are: validation.
- They are not shaming or judemental.
- They guide rather than lecture.
- They model rather than preach.
- They listen without fixing.
- They give advice only when asked.
- They are consistent.
- They are supportive rather than “shoulding.”
- They communicate clearly and without an agenda.
- They invite interaction with us.